On the way to my office this morning, a nice lady hand over a leaflet: Marriage Equality. It's about a fair go. No doubt, she want people to vote YES for same-sex marriage. And I begin to realize that the tension between YES and NO is getting hotter and hotter. It looks like there is no space for people who is willing to stay outside the battle.
I am not sure if all the people who are going to vote understand the meanings of YES or NO. I hope they are not making their decision simply because they feelingly like it or not. There are several related issues behind the scene.
First of all, religious marriage issue. YES means religious leaders have to accept homo couples. Personally, I do not think this is a very huge problem. As long as the law and society can accept the situation, religion is the last thing we should think about it. I do not mean that religion is not important. I just want to say the law has definitely much higher priority than religious belief.
Secondly, it is about parenting. For now, two dads or two moms are not able to make people in a natural way. Does that mean they cannot be good parents? Or, have no enough experiences? To tell the truth, I do think that a family with a female and a male as parents is a good combination because different genders can complement each other. On the other hand, I do not has any arguments to support the view that same-sex parents have no ability to bring up children well. Just like you know, no matter same sex or not, not every parents are qualified enough or not.
No way to let me say YES or NO to same-sex marriage currently. I am not wise enough to give the answer. So I hope to figure it out with a primary measure: What are the advantages and disadvantages?
Let us start with disadvantages. Two gents or ladies have special feelings between them and they decide to stay together with each other and keep a promise, maybe, forever. Immediate result is that there is not natural baby is going to come from them. Will it cause a human population shrinking issue? Not likely in next 1000 years in my mind. Additionally, some straight gents and ladies lose some chances to find their another half. Without same-sex marriage might be able to help a little?
What about the advantages? Those kids lost their original parents around the world may get a chance to be taken care by homo couples. How many the couples can achieve good parents? I do not know. What is the possible affection to the next generations? Inside and outside those same-sex marriage families? I do not know.
I still have not answer for voting YES or NO. But I gradually believe that it is a matter of children and the approval of laws. If those people who are yelling for YES only fight for Marriage Equality, I do not think they have thought it through. They just sink deeply in their own freedom belief. If those people who are pushing NO only fight for protecting their kids away from the idea, I would like to say that they are trying to install their own opinions to their children. It is not true willing from children. Sooner or later, children will recognize the existence of the concepts.
From the other side of the coin, this is a love issue. There are so many different kinds of loves exist in human kind. I believe there is one kind of love which is not natural enough or majority between homo couple. And that love is not evil as some harmful heresy in this world. So I accept the existence of the concepts. But how far the concepts can go and should go? Only God can tell.
Considering I have not supplied any nutritious advice here, just let me suggest something ridiculous. Taking the love between homo couple as a relationship of love, and we do not call this relationship as Marriage. Let us call it Garriage. Writing a new chapter in our law book for Garriage, which includes all the same rights and responsibilities like Marriage (some modification might be needed). People can choose to get married or get garried. Someday, if we find out something wrong with Garriage, just erase the chapter from the law book. Nothing need to be touched inside Marriage chapter.
YES or NO? Not so easy, please let those people has no answer like me, stay in peace, and wonder the future.
